Date a girl who travels. Date a girl who would rather save up for out of town trips or day
trips than buy new shoes or clothes. She may not look like a fashion plate, but behind that
tanned and freckled face from all the days out in the sun, lies a mind that can take you
places and an open heart that will take you for what you are, not for what you can be.
Date a girl who travels. You’ll recognize her by the backpack she always carries. She won’t
be carrying a dainty handbag; where will she put her travel journal, her pens, and the LED
flashlight that’s always attached to her bag’s zipper? In a small purse, how can she bring
the small coil of travel string, the wet tissues, the box of cracker, and the bottle of water
she’s always ready with, just in case something happens and she can’t go home yet?
Yes, a girl who travels knows that anytime, anything can happen and she just has to be
prepared with it. Nothing takes her by surprise; she takes everything with equanimity,
knowing that such things are always a part of life. She’s reliable and dependable, traits
that she’s learned while on the road.
You’ll also recognize a girl who travels by the fact that she’s always amazed at the world
around her, no matter if she’s in her home town or in a place that’s totally new. She sees
beauty all around her, not just the ones featured in travel guides or shown in postcards. A
girl who travels has developed a deeper appreciation for life. She won’t judge you, or
pressure you to do things you don’t want to do. She knows too much about the
importance of identity and self-efficacy, and she will appreciate all the more if you won’t
pretend to be who you’re not.
You can make mistakes with a girl who travels, and you can also be as idiosyncratic as you
can be. Trust me, she has seen so much worse in her travels, and knows firsthand the
vagaries of human nature.
Date a girl who travels, because when you’re with her, you’ll realize that even though she’s
napped at a temple in Angkor Wat, went boating down the Mekong Delta, ran by the
streets of Saigon, or went skinny-dipping in the caves in the Philippines, she still retains
that humility that is the mark of a real traveler. She knows she’s been to a lot of places,
but she’s humbled by the fact that the world is still a big place and she’s only seen a small
part of it. Seeing this in her can make you feel all right with yourself too; there’s no need
for you to do more, to be more. What you are is enough.
When you meet a girl who travels, ask her where she’s been and what she’s going to do
next. She will appreciate your interest, and if you’re lucky, she may even invite you to join
her. When she does, do. Nothing bonds people better than traveling. On your trips, you
will both see each other’s best and worst characteristics, and you can then decide whether
she’s worth fighting for.
It’s easy enough to date a girl who travels. She won’t want expensive gifts; you can buy her
(or both of you) cheap tickets to Thailand for the weekend, and shell be more than
happy to take you to the longest wooden bridge in the country. You don’t even have to go
overseas; you can take her out on day trips, caving or hiking, or treat her to a full body
You can also buy her the little things that she keeps forgetting to buy for herself; that
carabiner that will attach her backpack to her seat so that she wifi feel easier about
sleeping on her bus trip, or a backpack cover, a small alarm clock, a money belt, or maybe
another sarong that will replace the one she lost in China.
She won’t mind if you get lost on your way to a date. She knows that oftentimes, the
journey is more important than the destination. She will help you see the lighter side of
things. Shell walk along with you, not behind you, pointing out the interesting bits of
things you’ll see on the way. Before long, you’ll realize that yes, the journey has been more
memorable than the destination that you’ve planned to take her to.
Is a girl who travels worth it? Yes, she is. So when you find her, keep her. Don’t lose her
with your insecurities and doubts. Because when she says she loves you, she really does.
After all, she’s seen so many things, met so many people, and if she had chosen you, better
grab that opportunity and thank the gods that you were lucky enough she’s chosen you
and not that bloke she met while watching the sun rise in Angkor Wat, or while
whitewater rafting in the Padas Gorge in Sabah.
If she says she loves you, she must have seen something in you, something that can always
call her back from her travels, something that can anchor her to the world in the way that
she wants to after weeks and months of being on the road.
Date a girl who travels. Make her feel safe, warm, and secure. Make her believe that no
matter where she goes, and however long she’s gone, you’ll always be there for her, the
one that she can call home.
Find a girl who travels. Date her, love her, and marry her, and your world will never be
the same again.
I didn’t write this, but I wish I did. I really can’t explain any better how the feeling of travelling feels, or emphasize how special the people are who understand. When you find someone like this, hold them tight for as long as you have them; love them in their wholeness, flaws and insecurities, adventures the made them and stories not yet written. Treasure every moment with them; because sooner than you had hoped for they will be ready once again to spread their wings and fly. If you really love them, you’ll let them go, or you will be right next to them. If you’ve captured her heart enough for her to let you love her, you’re the person that she’s been looking for all these years. You’re the one who keeps her grounded when she has he head in the clouds. You remember to water her roots while she spreads her branches. You’re the person who brings her home, whether physically or only in her mind. You are the one that causes the flowing thoughts of I wish you were here to see this, the cramping days of homesickness, the next impromptu trip she plans being to a place she’s been thousands of times before. Some people would say you are the summet of her weaknesses; the only thing from letting her leave completely. But, you’re also the greatest thing holding her together.
(Date a Girl Who Travels original post: http://www.solitarywanderer.com/2012/02/date-a-girl-who-travels/)